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Billie Eilish is learning she can’t control everything – Crow River Media

Billie Eilish has realised she cant control everything in her career.

The 19-year-old singer has admitted she used to want to handle every part of her career by herself, but has recently realised its not always a bad thing to let other people help her out.

Billie specifically referenced the animation work on her upcoming film, Happier than Ever: A Love Letter to Los Angeles, as she said she would have loved to get stuck in on the project herself, but knew there were people more qualified to take on the task.

Speaking to the Spout podcast, she said: I think the thing that we should all be able to do is say, you know, Im going to be honest with you, this isnt my thing. You know, even though I want to do this because I want to be able to say that Im capable of this, but Im still learning. I want to just watch for a little longer.

Im the same, like, I want everything to be very, very specific, edited wise, and like, you know, just shots and colour and everything, and I kind of for this one, I was like, you know what? Its okay, Im handing it over to you. I trust you.

Meanwhile, the Everything I Wanted singer is also coming to terms with being on her own more often, as she said she likes having "autonomy" but has lots of "weird, irrational fears" so prefers to be around her parents a lot.

She said recently: "I really dont like to be alone. I do like having anonymity, or autonomy, but I really am flipped out when Im alone. I hate it. I have a lot of stalkers and I have people that want to do bad things to me, and I also am freaked out by the dark and, like, whats under beds and couches. I have a lot of weird, irrational fears. So Im still at my parents house a lot. I just love my parents and really like it here."

Billie admitted she can get angry at her family though, and finds horse-riding really helps relieve stress.

Speaking about how she deals with her anger, she added: "Im an equestrian and that gives a lot of adrenaline and needs a lot of strength, and its exhausting. That is a big stress reliever for me. Ive been less angry and emotional since Ive gotten back into that. My family, my God, makes me so angry. Oh, my family is like everybodys. Theres anger and love, so it kind of evens out."

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America is ‘closer to the beginning’ of the pandemic than the end how to emotionally cope and stay productive – CNBC

For a fleeting moment this summer, it seemed like things were approaching normal. Vaccinated people got the green light to safely resume activities that were off-limits for over a year. Companies laid out plans for returning to the office. People ditched their masks.

But in a disturbing case of pandemic dj vu, the seven-day average number of Covid cases topped 100,000 on Sunday. That's the highest it's been since February, fueled by the virus's more transmissible delta variant.

About half of the U.S. population is fully vaccinated, but according to esteemed epidemiologist Larry Brilliant, that's not nearly enough to end the pandemic. In fact, the world is "closer to the beginning than we are to the end" of the pandemic, Brilliant told CNBC's "Street Signs" on Friday.

On top of the despair, depression, burnout and anxiety that come with living and working during a pandemic, many Americans are feeling angry and disappointed that the U.S. isn't closer to the finish line, Margaret Wehrenberg, psychologist and author of "Pandemic Anxiety: Fear, Stress, and Loss in Traumatic Times," tells CNBC Make it.

"It's creating a level of distrust and frustration that's really far different than it was one year ago when we didn't have a vaccine and there was anxiety," Wehrenberg says. "Now it's coupled with suspicion and anger."

Here are four strategies to help you cope with the mental toll of a worsening pandemic situation:

The pandemic has made many Americans realize just how much of their lives are uncontrollable. The discovery can be "pretty darn anxiety-provoking," Wehrenberg says.

There's a term for that psychological phenomenon: learned helplessness. Essentially, it means learning the hard way that no matter what you do, you can't control your environment or events. "To be hopeful, or to exert effort to move in a certain direction, only becomes punitive," explains Debra Kissen, clinical director of Light on Anxiety, a cognitive behavioral therapy treatment center in Chicago.

One solution starts by simply acknowledging the challenge, says Emiliana Simon-Thomas, science director at the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, who studies human happiness. Recognizing and naming your emotions can help you feel better, she explains, because it allows you to consciously prioritize behaviors that can combat negativity.

You can also take steps to influence positive situations, even when you can't fully control a scenario's outcome. With the pandemic, for example, you can choose to wear a mask indoors and avoid crowds to mitigate your risk even if you're fully vaccinated. "Beyond that, that's the only influence you have," Wehrenberg says.

Relinquishing control in shaky times might sound terrifying for many people, and is certainly easier said than done. Kissen advises remembering that the only constant in life is change, and the pandemic has presented ample opportunities for people to get used to being "flexible, adaptive and operating in a state of uncertainty and then pivoting."

Prior to delta's rampage, the freedom of post-pandemic life seemed well within reach. Perhaps your summer vacation got derailed because of delta, or maybe you had to postpone a large event like a wedding yet again. It's simultaneously disappointing and discouraging.

Those emotions are valid. One way to keep yourself from mentally or emotionally spiraling: Put them into a broader perspective.

When you're in an anxious head space, your nervous system clings to anything that could be a potential threat, Simon-Thomas says. She recommends taking a moment to notice something directly in front of you that isn't threatening, like a pet resting calmly or a houseplant that's growing nicely. It's a small action but it can help you take a step back mentally, instead of focusing myopically on whatever's going wrong.

You can also simply ask yourself: What in my world is still right? One of Wehrenberg's favorite mantras for staying present and mindful, she says, is: "At this moment, all is well."

When it comes to doom-scrolling the news or social media, portion control is key. "The pandemic is not a wildfire that you have to follow evacuation notices for hour by hour," Wehrenberg says. Instead, try getting your news once a day, "preferably in the morning so you can shake it off as the day goes on."

If you find that you're always angry or upset after reading social media sites whether it's anti-vaxxer posts on Facebook or never-ending Twitter discourses that's a pretty clear sign that you should take a break. As Wehrenberg says: "There's no point in that."

If you struggle to wean yourself off the social media firehose, try intentionally setting some time limits. Plenty of apps and web browser plug-ins, like Freedom or Serene, can help you block yourself from using websites that tend to emotionally drain you.

Finding the energy and motivation to get through your workday might be harder now than ever. Kissen suggests charting out your mood throughout the day, so you can identify the times or situations when you tend to feel the lowest. You might discover that your afternoon slump always happens around 3 p.m. or that you always feel most overwhelmed during the few crammed hours you have before a series of meetings.

Try mitigating those low-energy moments by doing one thing that you know will give you a boost, Kissen says. Examples include having a snack, going on a quick walk around the block, taking a 20-minute power nap or switching from sitting to standing.

You can mark those mini-breaks in your calendar, to ensure that they actually happen. And if you can't find an activity to boost your mood, Kissen says, simply talk to a friend. Even a casual conversation can help you reflect on what you're experiencing and offer creative solutions, she says.

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Ashley Graham: My control is ‘out the window’ during pregnancy – Star Local Media

Ashley Grahams control has gone out the window during her pregnancy.

The 33-year-old model is currently expecting her second child with her husband Justin Ervin, and has said shes stopped trying to control her body because she knows she will never feel the same as she did before she was pregnant.

She said: I think being in control when you're pregnant, it just gets thrown out the window.

"And I learned that the hard way when I tried to control everything when I was pregnant with Isaac and I told myself that I was going to bounce right back because I was breastfeeding and everybody told me, 'Oh, if you breastfeed you're going to lose all the weight. And I had a few honest women tell me you will never feel the same. So they were just blunt with me and sure enough, I haven't felt the same.

"And then boom. I was like, 'Well, I just got pregnant again so maybe I'll never feel the same and I don't even know what I felt like before I was pregnant with Isaac anyways.

Ashley who already has 18-month-old son Isaac with Justin also heaped praise on the mommy community that she joined when she was pregnant with her first child, as she now has a place to go to for advice without being shamed.

She added to People magazine: "I think that the best thing I did was find a mommy community and when I'm pregnant, I find other pregnant people to just call and ask [questions] because this pregnancy is so different from the last and different symptoms, different feelings.

"And then when the kid gets here, then you have a whole other slew of questions because they don't come with a manual, so [I'm] all about the community. And I think that if I didn't have that, I would be so lost."

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Did CDC Propose Putting High Risk People Into Covid-19 Camps? Heres What They Actually Said – Forbes

Candace Owens, political commentator and host of the TV show "Candace," tweeted that the CDC ... [+] actually put together a document to discuss putting high risk people into camps to shield low risk people from them. (Photo by Jason Davis/Getty Images)

Well, heres a campy interpretation of what the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) posted on its website last year. On Monday, political commentator Candace Owens tweeted that the CDC actually put together a document to discuss putting high risk people into camps to shield low risk people from them. In case you were wondering whether this was a joke, the next sentence in Owens tweet was, No this is not a joke, and yes, every single person who has made a reference to 1930s Germany is vindicated. Really? Every single person who has compared Covid-19 precautions to what the Nazis did in Germany in the 1930s is vindicated?

And perhaps to put some emphasis, she began the whole tweet with a phrase that rhymed with Goalie Brad Pitt but wasnt the kind of thing that you might utter in super polite company. Heres her tweet in all its glory, well, most of it with the expletive scratched out:

From Twitter

As you can see, Owens included a link to the CDC website that she was tweeting about, the one that supposedly discussed putting high risk people into camps to shield low risk people from them.

Owens wasnt the only one on social media to spread such an interpretation of the CDC website. For example:

From Twitter

And according to Jessica McDonald writing for FactCheck.org, the Epoch Times posted on Instagram the following: The Centers for Disease Control & Prevention detailed in a July 26 report the options for creating camps to isolate Americans amid the COVID-19 outbreak, along with a headline, CDC Virus Camps?

Putting people in camps, assuming that theyre not band camps or circus camps, doesnt sound good. It may evoke images of what the U.S. government did during the Second World War, throwing innocent Japanese Americans into internment camps just because of their racial background.

But theres one itty-bitty problem with Owenss claim. The CDC document that Owens referenced did not say anything about putting people in camps. Not even close.

When claiming that a document supports what you are claiming, its kind of important to actually read the document carefully. Otherwise, it can be like citing the Polices Every Breath Your Take and saying to your love interest, see this song shows how I really feel about you. You may want to take a closer look at what Sting was actually singing about before suggesting in any way that, every move you make, every step you take, Ill be watching you.

Similarly, the CDC website entitled Interim Operational Considerations for Implementing the Shielding Approach to Prevent COVID-19 Infections in Humanitarian Settings starts off by saying that it presents considerations from the perspective of the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC) for implementing the shielding approach in humanitarian settings as outlined in guidance documents focused on camps, displaced populations and low-resource settings. Thats the very first bleeping sentence. If you are going make claims about what a document indicates, at the least read the first sentence.

Just because a document mentions the word camp doesnt mean that its about putting you in one. For example, an article about Anna Camp wouldnt necessarily be about putting people in a camp. Anna Camp is not a camp, unless she started a camp, which would then be Anna Camps camp. Anna Camp is an actress who starred in the movie Pitch Perfect, which by the way wasnt about baseball.

Similarly, the CDC website did not mention any CDC Virus Camps, as the Epoch Times suggested. No, this was a document specifically covering a potential strategy for humanitarian settings. Now a humantitarian setting is not the same as a vegetarian place setting. According to a November 2019 publication in the journal BMC Conflict and Health, a humanitarian setting is one in which an event or series of events has resulted in a critical threat to health, safety, security or well-being of a community or other large group of people. So this can be a situation where a substantial number of people are hiding from or fleeing political oppression, mass poverty, a natural disaster, a disease outbreak, or some other threat to their health. Such settings tend to be crowded with few luxuries. They arent exactly a bank, an exclusive club in Florida, or anything else that may rhyme with the phrase marry cargo.

The website discussed the shielding approach as a possible way to reduce the number of severe Covid-19 cases by limiting contact between individuals at higher risk of developing severe disease (high-risk) and the general population ( low-risk). This would involve temporarily re-locating such high-risk individuals to safe or what they call green zones. For example, in a refugee camp, this green zone could be a place that has only entry point to minimize the chances that an infectious individual may enter the zone. There can be a meeting area where those staying in the green zone can interact with visitors while practicing physical distancing and staying at least two meters apart.

So this CDC website is more about one possible way to protect people at higher risk for severe Covid-19 than shielding lower risk people from them. So this is not quite like the Japanese American internment camps from World War II. And it certainly isnt close to what the Nazis did during the 1930s.

In case anyone says, oh the CDC has since changed the website, the same website and content has apparently been up since July 26, 2020, over a year before Owens and the Epoch Times had posted about it.

In general, its a good idea to double-check the actual content of any websites or documents being shared on social media. Thats especially true if you are the one who first shares the websites or documents on social media.

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Here’s why you should never compare yourself to anyone else Living – RTE.ie

Kim Kardashian West has told how she was left in tears after being compared with Kate Middleton while she was pregnant with her first child North.

The Keeping Up With The Kardashians star and the Duchess of Cambridge both gave birth in summer 2013, and Kim says media comparisons between herself and the royal knocked her confidence.

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"It was really, really crazy," Kardashian West said during an appearance on the We Are Supported By podcast. "They would always compare me to Kate Middleton so it would say Kate the waif and Kim the whale, the waif versus the whale.

"It was so nasty. I dont think that would really fly today, but it killed my self-esteem. I really cant believe that this was acceptable and that this was OK."

Kardashian West, who said she was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia while pregnant, leading to swelling in her face and feet, was upset by the comparisons made by others but we often do it to ourselves, too.

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In the age of social media, comparison culture aka our compulsion to compare our lives to those around us is all too easy to do on a daily basis, but it can have a damaging impact on our wellbeing.

With experts warning that it can contribute to a range of mental health problems like anxiety and depression, here are some reasons to keep the urge to compare under control

1. It damages your sense of identity

Our little quirks and idiosyncrasies are what make us unique and special. Experts say that attempting to mimic someone elses life, whether copying their clothing or replicating their career, will only lead to self-doubt and an unhealthy sense of identity.

Bea Arthur, CEO of therapy platform The Difference, has a TEDx Talk on the subject called The Culture Of Comparison, which has been watched over 52,000 times. In the talk, she explains: "The culture of comparison causes you to grade your choices against the choices of others.

"I can tell you that nothing else in this world will make you more confused and paralysed than basing your own opinions and choices on those of other people."

2. It can make you feel like youre failing

Constantly comparing yourself to others lives, their social circles, their outfits and even where they go on holiday can all contribute to feelings of underachievement, says David Brud, CEO and co-founder of mental wellbeing and self-development platform Remente.

"This is because of the tremendous pressure individuals can feel about the way that others see them," he says.

"Inherently, we all have a critical voice which tells us to improve, to strive for better things and to achieve. While this voice is normal, and even healthy, when fuelled by social media it can spiral out of control."

Brud says that while we want others to see us in the best possible light, we should take social media with a pinch of salt. "What we fail to realise is that the images we see from others are all the end result of the same manipulations and the same impulse towards perfection. The constant comparison will inevitably lead to feelings of underachievement."

3. It wont help you to achieve your goals

Its really easy to get stuck in a cycle of questioning why you havent achieved the same things as your peers, without stopping to really ask yourself if its what you really want.

The concern about whether youre doing life wrong can quickly derail you from focusing on achieving your authentic goals, whether thats travelling the world or settling down to have a family.

"Browsing websites like Facebook and Instagram and observing other peoples lives can trigger feelings of exclusion and loneliness, or FOMO," explains Brud.

"Seeing images of people doing fun activities, going on business trips or going to parties can make individuals ask questions like Why am I not doing this? Why am I not achieving the same things? All of which can then lead to a negative perception of your life and unnecessary feelings of guilt."

Unplugging from the anxiety

If you want to beat comparison culture for good, Brud recommends taking a social media hiatus.

"Try deleting apps from your phone and see if that will decrease the amount of negative thoughts that you have. Instead of checking social media and comparing your life to those of others, try taking physical control go for a walk, grab a book or even distract yourself with a game on your phone.

"Additionally, try spending less time on your posts," he adds. "You dont need to dedicate hours to changing filters or re-phrasing a tweet, when instead you could be living your life to the full. Use social media on a reward basis, only posting something once youve achieved all of your tasks for the day."

Lastly, he says to keep things in perspective. "Your Facebook or Instagram feed only shows the highlights of someones life, not the full reality. No one wants to share bad photos of themselves, or write a post about a missed deadline at work. What you see is carefully chosen and curated, not reflective of reality. "

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